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Getting comfortable in your relationship. Is it a pro or con?

Today, I sat down and decided to write a list of pros and cons over my relationship with my partner. Between daily struggles and arguments. I wanted to see what was happening here. I'm a visual person. Plus love writing lists. Who doesn't?!?!
As I got to the "I feel comfortable" part, I wasn't exactly sure whether I should include it in the pro or con side of the list. 

Of course everyone aspires a relationship where they can be comfortable with one another. Speak openly without feeling judgement from your partner. Yet get feedback that can help you make correct decisions, or view things with more perspective. However getting too comfortable also can be a way of letting go. Letting go of yourself. Not putting enough effort in your appearance. Or doing special things to keep the spark alive. Getting comfortable can be farting in front of your partner.  -Gasps
The dreadful thought of farting in front of your partner. A simple bodily function that all humans and even some animals go through. 
Why most people can't seem to get past that, I have no idea. 😁 

So there I sat. Wondering have I gotten too comfortable??  Has it gone from being a pro to a con..? 
I certainly did not intend to let go of my appearance. And try to get dressed up, and not live in my pjs or yoga pants daily. But have I gotten so used to my partner that this relationship is just being comfortable with one another? 
We are not married (officially). We do not hold a piece of paper that states we are legally married. We are simply two adults who decided to live together. Make a life together. Raise our child together. Get comfortable together?? 

At this point, I couldn't even finish the lists. My conclusion was that I felt comfortable. 
Comfortable enough to realize that I was not ready to part ways with my partner. Comfortable enough to want to keep going through any hardships together. Comfortable enough to know that this feeling of comfort was not just being comfortable. But feeling happy. Happy to have found someone who can be by my side in this lifetime. 

So here lie my thoughts on feeling comfortable in my relationship. By no means necessary am I a relationship expert. Let me know your thoughts. Thank you for reading and giving my thoughts your time. Xoxo Carla

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