Adulting isn't easy...

Being an adult isn't easy...

How many of us have heard these two words before?... Adulting sucks...

My thoughts on "adulting" are the following. Not everything about being an adult is bad or "sucks". & when times are tough, it won't last forever. But for the most part, there are many times an adult can feel more than defeated. I have had my share of moments; Moments when I am exhausted.   Exhausted of having to deal with all these things. Things I had no clue about when I was a kid or teen.    

I constantly find myself questioning why I was never told about what it's really like to grow up. What it's really like to be an adult. 

I feel that to be considered a real adult. One should be living on their own and paying for rent and bills. We all know that when we live with our parents, (for the most part) we have all their support. Economically speaking. 

Even if you are working, you can count on them to help you. If you're short on cash for example,  they can give you a helping hand. & they won't be charging you any interests. They provide most of the food. They pay for the mortgage/rent/bills. Some parents even provide their children with cars/transportation. 

Once you move and are living on your own. The only person responsible for the bills, rent/mortgage, food, gas etc is you. The adult. Every one's situation is different. I know that. But in the end every one has to deal with being an adult.

Personally I've done everything backwards. When I say backwards, I mean not according to society's standards. I had a child before completing my college degree. I'm currently attending college and it's hard! Not only the school work, but accommodating my time. I have to set time for my son & his school. My partner, the housework, preparing meals. I have to deal with our finances. I need to make time and put effort into friendships. In order for those friendships to keep growing. I have to work on my business, which I really want to grow. Study and turn in assignments. Plus there's family members; In laws, my mother and brother. Oh and I almost forgot doctor appointments. As you can see, my plate is pretty full. 

There are times when I have to tell my son, "I can't play right now because I have homework". The look on his face breaks my heart. It makes me question if I should continue with the journey I am on. I know that what I'm doing will benefit us all in the near future. But in these moments, I truly wish I would have prepared myself better for "adulting".

One way to start preparing teens into becoming adults is by talking to them. Show them what real life is like. Involve them in things like meal planning. Grocery budgeting. Teach them to save money. Even small things like how to change a tire (especially for girls). Time management is also something that is very important.

& for all the adults who feel defeated, and feel like adulting sucks. I tell you this, breathe! Nothing lasts forever. Enjoy the moments. Give thanks. To your parents or anyone who has helped you get this far. Remember your why. We all have a why. A reason why we do what we do. & keep moving forward!

Best part of being an adult is you can have dessert and wine for breakfast!!! 

Thank you for reading my thoughts and let me know what you dislike the most about adulting. & what you enjoy the most! 💖

Xoxo,

Carla